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Worried

Posts: 2
From: UK
Registered: 05-Dec-2006

I'm worried about him.
Posted: 05-Dec-2006 21:09

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I'm worried about my boyfriend.
Ironically, its me who has Cystic Fibrosis!
He worries too much about me, and I'm worried that he's going to make himself ill by worrying about me so much.
I've tried explaining to him that he doesn't need to worry, but he says that he loves me and of course he does.
I'm having a portacath fitted, and he read the possible risks. He read that mechanical failure of the port could lead to death. He looked so worried. I explained that the chances of that were virtually nil, but because it was a risk, they had to put it.
I love him so much and wish I could protect him from my health, but by doing that I didn't always tell him things, which upset him.
I'm so scared about the port, and last night was at the stage where I was questioning if I was doing the right thing. I know deep down that I am, but I'm so scared, but I don't want him to know how scared I am, because he'll worry more than he is doing now!
Does anyone have any advice?

loopylou

Posts: 90
From: wales
Registered: 06-Nov-2006

Re: I'm worried about him.
Posted: 05-Dec-2006 23:34

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its only normal for him to worry like he does im the oppisite my boyfriend has cf and of course i worry about him and im sure thers things he has not talked about because he doesnt wont to upset me but dont worry to much he will be fine take it easy all the best louisexxx

Gordon

Posts: 6
From: Fife
Registered: 16-Nov-2006

Re: I'm worried about him.
Posted: 07-Dec-2006 16:30

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my wife has CF and it is hard not to worry, but it is sometimes harder to watch your partner suffer than to deal with the condition yourself. dont you fret or worry when he is ill??. bet you do!
just talk about what and why you are gettin things done, after the portacath is fitted ensure he taught how to flush the line and administer what ever medication your on, this should help ease any worries.

hope this helps. all the best

gordon

jodie

Posts: 14
From: west midlands
Registered: 20-Nov-2006

Re: I'm worried about him.
Posted: 10-Dec-2006 22:16

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hi im jodie ive got cf.ive just had a new port fitted last week i was so worried so was my fiancee but i made it worse cause i kept thinking everything was going to go wrong.(we always do)ha.
but everything was fine i had a old one took out and new one put in under local and sedation.everything was fine which ment i was worried for nothing.having a port is the best thing you can do.it does hurt for a bit after u had it in and neeed help dressing ha ha but ok.my old one lasted 11yrs so hoping this one will.
you will be ok and its normal to worry and your boyfriend.
men always worry lol just try and reasure him u will be fine. hope ur ok
jodie xxx