softie
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Croydon, Surrey
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07-Feb-2004
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Re: hate living at home
Posted:
05-Dec-2006 17:34
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There can be a lot of reasons for a couple to be unhappy, it doesn't have to be about CF. There are money worries, mid-life-crisis, losing touch with their friends, not having time to meet their friends, spending too much time in the house and not having enough to occupy them - and many, many other reasons. It's best to not assume it's down to you and your CF! CF will always make things worse, but it doesn't have to be the only reason.
The first and best thing you can do is to look after yourself, and to not slip into bad habits of skipping your treatments that will add to their worries. Also try to be as little work to them as possible and try to do some extra work to make their lives easier — if you're feeling angry any time try to wage war on some of the rubbish in the house, or on some dirty pots and pans. My room is a tip (I've not been at all angry of late) and if yours is like mine it would help to clear that up a bit. it's amazing how much happier a houseproud Mum can be if just one part of the house improves!
Second best thing you can do is to make sure that you are as cheerful as possible, even if you have to fake it a little sometimes - if you're feeling bad, come here and tell US! It also helps to get out of the house, even if it's just for a short walk round the block. Announce it as "I'm feeling energetic, I'm just off for a walk" rather than "I can't stand it in here, I'm going for a walk!" See if there are any clubs or classes you can take, check at the local book-lending library, they may have a list.
Finally, save up some money and every so often treat your parents to an evening out at a nice place to eat and drink. I don't know what would suit them, but my parents enjoy a meal out at a posh restaurant every now and again. Your parents may have very different ideas! Little gestures like that can make everybody a lot happier - you can feel smug, and they will feel grateful.
It's not easy living at home at 19, and a lot of us (and other people wocf) find themselves trapped there. I don't know many people who have enjoyed living with their parents one bit. But things do, often, get easier after a few years, as they get used to the new, adult you, and you find new, adult ways to cope.
Take care, stay well!
Richard.
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