softie
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Re: This P***ed Me Off Tonite 
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26-Nov-2006 14:35
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Me being the kind of person who LOVES to "inform" people (= bore them stupid  ) I would have taken their questions as an opportunity to talk at them until they ran away!
For me, having CF is something I have had to get adjusted to many years ago, and I long ago decided there is no point being diffident or embarrassed about it. Of course, I stop short of describing the difference between fatty **** and well-enzymed ****, or the different colours of sputum!
I am who I am. It doesn't shrink me if people show an interest in only one aspect of me, and it doesn't reduce me if I never get a chance to talk about other, more interesting things in my life. So long as they are showing a friendly interest, then that's OK. And yes, friendly people DO have 40 questions - and more!
People learn more about us from the way we handle their questions, than they do from what the answers are. That's true for everybody, CF or otherwise. Imagine you ask a guy if he wants a drink. If he scowls at you and says "I don't f.ing drink!" then you learn that he's got a drink problem and can't cope. So you treat him like someone to avoid as a result.
If, on the other hand he grins, says "no way mate! I'm alchoholic!" and then answers all your questions, boasting about how long it is since he last relapsed, then you learn he's an alchoholic who is coping very well and a good bloke on top of that. So you treat him with more friendliness as a result, and get to chat about the good things in life.
BUT, most importantly, they can be the same bloke, just a few weeks apart, who has made an effort to be up-front and positive, and has found people treat him better as a result.
It's worth making that effort.
Richard.
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